Why support in the early weeks matters, and what we can learn from global traditions of care
As Midwives, we often remind new mums that birth is not the end of the journey — it’s just the beginning. The weeks following childbirth are a uniquely demanding time, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Yet too often in modern Western society, this critical period of recovery and adjustment is overlooked, with new mothers expected to “bounce back” almost immediately.
At My Expert Midwife, we know that postpartum recovery doesn’t happen in isolation. The old adage “It takes a village to raise a child” applies just as strongly to the mother herself. Around the world, cultures have long recognised the importance of nurturing not only the newborn, but also the woman who gave birth.
Let’s take a closer look at what postpartum support can look like — and how we might rebuild our own “village” in the UK.
The Importance of the Fourth Trimester
The first 6–12 weeks after birth — often called the fourth trimester — is a time of immense change. Hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, feeding challenges, emotional highs and lows, and physical recovery all collide at once.
During this time, having support isn’t a luxury — it’s a necessity. Studies have shown that robust social support during the postnatal period can significantly reduce the risk of postnatal depression and anxiety, improve breastfeeding outcomes, and help build confidence in new parenthood.
So how do other cultures support new mothers — and what can we learn?
Postnatal Traditions Around the World
China – “Zuo Yue Zi” (Sitting the Month)
In Chinese tradition, new mothers observe zuo yue zi, or “sitting the month,” for 30 to 40 days after birth. During this time, they are cared for by family or a hired yuesao (maternity nanny), and follow a regimen of rest, warming foods, herbal remedies, and bonding time with their baby. Visitors are limited, and mothers are not expected to do any housework.
India – The 40-Day Rest Period
In many Indian cultures, the jaappa period (often 40 days) is dedicated to healing and bonding. The mother stays with family, eats specially prepared foods rich in ghee and spices to aid recovery, and receives daily massages with warm oils. Community and extended family play a central role.
Scandinavia – Equal Parental Leave
In countries like Sweden, both parents are entitled to extended paid parental leave (up to 480 days shared), which supports not just the mother’s recovery, but also bonding for both parents. This balanced approach reduces pressure on one partner and allows families to adjust together.
Latin America – “La Cuarentena”
Similar to India and China, many Latin American countries observe la cuarentena, a 40-day postnatal period. Friends and extended family provide food, help with older children, and care for the mother while she focuses on rest and breastfeeding.
Netherlands – Kraamzorg (Postnatal Nurse Care)
In the Netherlands, new mothers receive care from a kraamverzorgster — a postnatal nurse who visits the home daily for up to 8 days. She provides breastfeeding support, checks the mother and baby’s health, helps with light housework, and offers invaluable guidance.
What About the UK?
While some communities in the UK uphold strong family support traditions, many new mothers today find themselves isolated — especially when living far from extended family or navigating parenthood during societal shifts.
NHS services such as midwife visits and health visitor appointments provide crucial early care, but the support often tapers off quickly. And while parental leave exists, it’s limited compared to other nations, particularly for non-birthing partners.
So what can we do to build our own “village”?
Rebuilding the Village: Practical Steps for UK Families
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Plan for your postpartum as you would your birth
Think ahead: who can help with meals, errands, or older children? Don’t be afraid to ask for support — and be specific about what you need. -
Lean into community
Parent and baby groups, breastfeeding cafés, and online forums can offer connection, especially if your family isn’t nearby. -
Explore postnatal services
Consider hiring a postnatal doula, maternity nurse, or lactation consultant if you’re able — even short-term help can make a big difference. But always reach out to My Expert Midwife's Call The Midwife service where one of our in-house Midwives can respond to non-urgent queries during working hours. -
Use what’s available
Your midwife and health visitor are there for you, not just the baby. Share how you’re feeling and ask for referrals if needed. -
Look after yourself, not just the baby
Prioritise nutrition, hydration, and rest where possible — even small acts of self-care can support your recovery.
Final Thoughts: Every Mother Deserves Support
While the UK may not have the same ingrained cultural practices as some other nations, we can take inspiration from them — and make conscious choices to prioritise the wellbeing of new mothers.
Whether it's through formal services, community networks, or a handful of supportive loved ones, postpartum care should never be a solo effort. Because it truly does take a village — and every mother deserves one.
Need support now?
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or low after giving birth, please speak to your midwife or GP. You can also contact the following UK charities for confidential help and advice:
- PANDAS Foundation – 0808 1961 776
- Mind – 0300 123 3393
- Maternal Mental Health Alliance – www.maternalmentalhealthalliance.org
