When you’re expecting a baby, the internet will tell you that you need everything from a wipe warmer to a white-noise machine shaped like a wombat. But as a midwife, I’ve watched countless new parents feel overwhelmed by the stuff the endless lists, the fancy gadgets, the pressure to be prepared for every scenario.
But here’s the truth: what mums really need during pregnancy isn’t more things, its support, comfort, and a few well-chosen essentials that actually make a difference.
Whether you're shopping for yourself, a loved one, or helping a friend pack their hospital bag, here’s what truly matters.
For Your Body
Pregnancy takes its toll, physically, emotionally, and yes, even dermatologically. Don’t underestimate the power of a few simple, healing products:
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Nipple balm – Not just for breastfeeding; it’s also a skin-saver during pregnancy and the best lip balm.
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Stretch mark serum – A little ritual of self-care during a time your body is changing fast.
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Perineal spray – Not glamorous, but game-changing post-birth.
These aren’t luxury items. They’re survival tools. And your body deserves them.
For Your Mind
Pregnancy isn’t just about your growing belly; it’s a mental journey too. Between planning, appointments, and unsolicited advice from strangers, it’s a lot.
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A journal – Somewhere to vent, reflect, or scribble down baby name ideas.
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A calming bath soak – Because a warm bath can fix almost anything.
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A gentle essential oil – Think lavender or chamomile to ease stress naturally.
Mental health matters during pregnancy. A calm mum is a strong mum.
For Rest (Or the Lack of It)
Sleep during pregnancy is... tricky. Whether it’s the midnight kicks or the 4 a.m. snack cravings, rest becomes a precious commodity.
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Sleep or pillow spray – A calming scent can become a bedtime ritual.
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Comfy pyjamas – Maternity-friendly and breathable.
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A really good pregnancy pillow – It’s like being hugged by a cloud (and your lower back will thank you).
You may not sleep through the night, but you can make it more comfortable.
For After the Birth
The baby gets all the gifts. But what about the person who just had the baby?
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Mum survival kit – Think: maternity pads and postpartum recovery.
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Easy snacks – Things you can eat with one hand while the other is holding a newborn.
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A water bottle – Hydration is not optional.
This is the time when mums need the most support, not just for the baby, but for themselves.
Something Just for Them
Because even in the thick of motherhood, they’re still a person. Not just a parent.
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A candle they love
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A bath soak that feels luxurious
Sometimes, the best gifts are the ones that quietly whisper, “You’re doing great.”
When someone’s expecting, it’s easy to focus on the baby. But the truth is, mums need just as much attention. Support doesn’t have to be loud or expensive. Sometimes, it’s a soft pyjama set, a kind note, or a box of snacks left on the doorstep.
The best gifts aren’t always the ones that sparkle. Sometimes, they’re the ones that gently say,
“You’ve got this.”
